Filed by Cari Gervin, Single in Chattanooga writer who posts e-mail exchanges with readers on this blog
My column on speed-dating drew a number of responses. Many were comments from people interested in trying it themselves, or people who had tried it with little luck.
Stephanie Zilbert said: I was just thinking about trying something like that also. I am a single 24-year-old and it just seems like you can never really get to know someone even if you have dated them for years, this coming from me because I just got out of a year and a half relationship wondering why I even bothered How could I actually find someone that I would want to get to know more after only talking for a few minutes? I dont know but I do know that it is scary now-a-days to date at all.
But John, 61, who didnt want his last name used, said he found my article on speed-dating interesting before proceeding to lambaste me (and everyone else my age). I kind of blend it in with the young people I read about in Myspace.com. It is little wonder that many of you cannot hold a conversation of more than 6 minutes and wind up terribly bored. How can people have nothing to talk about? I can discuss SEC sports, art history, I am familiar with Hegel, Marx, Christ, Buddha, Confucius, current events investments and markets, sports, music, art ... Do people know ` theyre going? How do they expect to become financially independent ? From what I read, all they think of is who is hot and are they one of them.
John continued, If Darwins, Origin of the Species is any indication, the Gen-X, Y or whatever, appear doomed. As I was told many years ago, there are three kinds of people, those who observe what is happening, those who anticipate what will happen and those who dont know what hit them. The latter, is that idyllic town and its young people, who know little, live only in the present (i.e. the superficial present) and believe every myth this town tells them.
I wrote John back and said that I can converse about football, philosophy, art and obviously current events I work at a newspaper, after all. I also commented that my generation (Im technically in Generation X) has certainly contributed to the economy, if nothing else its us, after all, that are responsible for all those Internet companies and the coffeehouse craze that spawned a Starbucks on every corner. Plus, I think if I had started talking about dialectical materialism on a six-minute date, I might have had an even more stilted conversation. Oh well, each to his own ... I suspect Johns parents friends probably said the same thing about his generation back in the day those hippie boomers werent always known for their scintillating conversation either.
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