Filed by Cari Gervin
Seven months into my column, I feel the time has come to address one of the most common types of e-mails I receive: notes from men asking me out on a date. While only some send pictures of themselves, each one says that this is the first time he has ever sent an e-mail asking someone out on a blind date.
The first time this happened, last fall, I was flabbergasted. I had honestly never considered that writing a dating column would be an invitation to be asked out on dates. Looking back, it seems like an obvious thing to have happen, but I never even thought about it. I just wanted to provide a different perspective on life in Chattanooga. Now, I know I will be asked out by someone almost every time a column runs. It is incredibly flattering, although I still dont really understand it. Only one person has sent an e-mail that was creepy in any way, and for that I am grateful. Still, I feel put in an awkward situation.
Im sure some of these guys that are e-mailing me are probably completely nice and sane, and I feel like its unfair for me to completely dismiss them out of hand just because they e-mail me instead of flirting with me at a bar. My friend Anita thinks I should take some of these fellows up on their offers and then write a column about it. A book recently came out called The Year of Yes by Maria Dahvana Headley. I havent read it because the library doesnt have it yet, and Im on no budget to afford hardcover books. But apparently Ms. Headley spent a year saying yes to every single guy who asks her out a 70 year old man, a taxi driver, the plumber who comes to fix the toilet. By the end of the year, she has found true love with a man, who under her previous standards, she never would have considered.
So tell me dear readers, am I simply being a snob by refusing to go on blind dates with the random men who e-mail me? Should I say yes more often, even though Ive been on so many bad dates over the years that I would rather stay home and watch Gilmore Girls than go out with someone that Im not already confident with whom I will have a lot in common? Im not guaranteeing that any of your responses will actually change my mind, because most of the time, Im content with my single state and not desperate for a date to alleviate my loneliness. But I am curious to hear what other people would do in this situation.
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