Dear Abby: I am a female who is “over 21.” I have always been a tomboy. I love to wrestle with my 200-pound boyfriend. Our struggles are vigorous, but never violent, and always end with a kiss or more.

My friends are horrified. They say I could be injured and that any man who would physically “fight” a woman is a potential wife-beater or worse.

So many people have warned me to “watch out” that now I’m beginning to wonder. To me, it’s a good way to have fun and burn off calories. What’s your take on this, Abby? — Loves to Tussle in Georgia.

Dear Loves to Tussle: If you are the one initiating these “fights,” then I doubt that your boyfriend is a potential wife-beater or worse. (If it were the other way around, I might be concerned.) What you have described sounds more like foreplay than abuse. As long as you both enjoy it and no one becomes injured, what the two of you do is nobody’s business, so keep it private.