published Sunday, February 14th, 2010

Carrying heavy burden


by Adam Crisp

Confined to his wheelchair, his 510-pound body drooping around him, Jimmy Allmond thinks often of things his weight won't allow him to do.

Lately, as his younger daughter's wedding approaches, the Rossville man imagines himself walking her down the aisle.

"I couldn't do it for my other daughter. I had to use my wheelchair," said Mr. Allmond, 50, while sitting in that chair in his small living room, family photos lining the wall behind him.

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    Staff Photo by Angela Lewis/Chattanooga Times Free Press Jimmy Allmond laughs during his first Weight Watchers meeting at the Chattanooga Heart Institute. Mr. Allmond decided to try Weight Watchers because he feels that being in a group is good for his weight-loss efforts.

There is a long list of things he wishes he could do. He would love to walk with his wife on a Florida beach again. His wife would enjoy quiet time in their garden together.

Even helping his family load boxes as they moved earlier this month would have been a treat, he said.

But carrying one-quarter of a ton on his 5-foot-9-inch frame makes him too heavy.

Mr. Allmond is too heavy to walk long distances, too heavy to work and too heavy to leave the house without assistance. He's too heavy to do most of the things he thinks he should be doing.

"It kills me to see my family doing things without me," Mr. Allmond said. "I feel like I should be helping. This isn't the way it's supposed to be."

Despite all that, Mr. Allmond has hope. He talks about when he loses weight and even says he doesn't want to be "too skinny" one day.

Mr. Allmond is one of about 127 million adults in the U.S. who are overweight. Sixty million are obese and 9 million severely obese, according to the American Obesity Association. Tennessee has the nation's third-highest number of obese residents and Georgia ranks eighth, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

People such as Mr. Allmond, with a body-mass index of 75, fall into a special class called "super, super obese," said Dr. Jack Rutledge, a local gastric surgeon.

"We are talking about a very small percentage of Americans who fall into this classification," he said.

Surgical intervention is not available to very large patients such as Mr. Allmond, Dr. Rutledge said.

The only option is for Mr. Allmond to lose a significant amount of weight either on his own or through a medically supervised program and then have gastric surgery to keep the weight off long term, the doctor said.

"I operate on super-obese patients, those individuals in the 50 to 60 BMI range," said Dr. Rutledge, who will perform about 20 such surgeries this year. "For people with BMIs above 60, it's just a nightmare to operate on (them)."

PUTTING IT ON

It's been about 20 years since Mr. Allmond had a job. He estimates it's been more than a decade since he physically was able to work, and that's mostly because of his size and the health conditions that come with obesity.

A workplace injury first tied him to home, and then subsequent weight gain caused him to become increasingly less mobile, he said.

The weight didn't come overnight. Like half the Americans classified as obese, Mr. Allmond gained it slowly over most of his adult life. Always a heavy child and raised by overweight parents, he began putting on large amounts of weight after high school, he said.

"I played football in high school, and I was about 200 pounds and in really good shape," Mr. Allmond said.

But after graduation he got a good -- but fast-paced -- job delivering ice cream for Flav-O-Rich dairy. Snacking between meals, he added a few pounds and his waistline began to grow.

"Sometimes I'd be in a hurry and I'd eat ice cream to tide me over to the next meal," Mr. Allmond said. "There wasn't any time to stop and eat something good for you."

Then he drove big-rig trucks, grabbing unhealthy meals and staying sedentary most of the time, leading to more weight gain. By this time, his weight was somewhere in the 280-pound range, but he was still active, said his wife, Valerie.

Mr. Allmond changed jobs again, starting to deliver furniture for a local store. Despite his size, he was able to get in the back of trucks and move furniture.

Then an accident changed everything. While in the back of a truck, he fell on top of a glass jewelry case, the shattered glass knifing through his knee. The injury required months of bed rest and led to a series of infections that required even more time in bed.

"It seemed like every time I would go back to work, there would be another infection and I would have to get back in bed," he said.

That's when the weight really piled on. By the time he recovered, he weighed about 350 pounds, he said. His record high was 630 pounds.

"Every time I started to get to working, I'd get sick and have a setback," Mr. Allmond said. "Sometimes I was too sick to get up and do anything, and other times I was too lazy."

Then depression set in. Mounting doctors' bills, the needs of a family and the fact that Mr. Allmond couldn't provide compounded the problem, he said.

"I don't think it was as much laziness as it was a depression," his wife said.

Mr. Allmond said trucking company representatives saw his large size and would deny him employment, fearing he'd suffer a heart attack or other health problem while on the road.

POOR HEALTH

Diabetes, high cholesterol and high blood pressure are common health problems for obese Americans, and Mr. Allmond has them all.

He reports eating large portions, but his food intake is not so large that people would be shocked, he said. Both his daughter and wife back that up.

"He and I eat the same thing," said Mrs. Allmond, who is slightly overweight for her height. "I'm overweight, but why don't I look like him? I make our plates for supper, and they are made the same way."

It's not uncommon for very obese individuals to underestimate their daily food intake, said Mary Jo Rapini, a psychotherapist for Methodist Weigh Management Center in Houston. She regularly counsels patients about to have gastric bypass surgery.

"Most of the people with very high (body-mass indexes) will underestimate what they eat," Ms. Rapini said. "If they aren't able to ambulate, they really don't have much in their lives except for food. That's all they look forward to."

Like Mr. Allmond, many people who are extremely heavy are homebound, unemployed and sometimes alone for large chunks of the day.

"All you can do is use the computer, watch TV and then eat. When we get them in our center, they often say, 'We were really underestimating what we actually ate,'" said Ms. Rapini, who has been featured on the TLC series "Big Medicine," which follows two gastric surgeons.

On top of that, since Mr. Allmond is very sedentary, it's easy to maintain his current weight and even gain some without eating massive quantities, one doctor said.

"At the very extremes of BMI, when the individual is highly sedentary, they need far less caloric intake to maintain their weight," said Dr. Julie Dunn, an endocrinologist who works in surgical weight loss clinics at Vanderbilt University Medical Center. "In many cases, they physically can't do the things necessary to get healthy."

WEIGHT LOSS EFFORTS

Losing weight is the only way to set things right, medical professionals say. Surgery can help, but doctors agree Mr. Allmond is about 100 to 200 pounds too large for safe surgical intervention.

There simply isn't enough room in the abdomen for the surgeon to maneuver safely, Dr. Rutledge said. And such people often have excessively fatty livers, which can harden after surgery and make long-term weight loss even harder, he said. The liver regulates fat metabolism, and an unhealthy liver can make weight loss difficult.

"Those patients really need to lose about 100 pounds before surgery," Dr. Rutledge said. "When you tell them that, they look at you like you might not have a brain."

Two surgeons ordered Mr. Allmond to lose weight before they would operate, and neither could guarantee he would survive the surgery. One surgeon said he should lose 300 pounds before surgery.

"If I could lose 300 pounds, I'd be pretty close to my goal weight," Mr. Allmond said. "I wouldn't need the surgery anymore."

Scared by the risks, Mr. Allmond has focused on losing the weight himself, but success has been limited. After spending a year at a now-defunct weight loss clinic in Cleveland, Ohio, he lost about 100 pounds.

WEIGHT TIMELINE

1978: high school -- 190-200 pounds

1978-91: ice-cream delivery man -- 225

1991: furniture delivery man -- 300

1992: recovered from injured knee -- 350-400

2007: underwent yearlong weight loss treatment -- 630

2010: signs up for Weight Watchers -- 510

Jimmy Allmond's diet

Mr. Allmond says most people would be surprised that he doesn't eat all day or even eat very unhealthy foods. Last week he ate the following in one day, he said:

BREAKFAST

3 eggs

2 pieces of bacon

3 whole wheat pieces of toast

LUNCH

Two ham sandwiches, 3 to 4 slices of meat

Light mayonnaise

A slice of cheese per sandwich

DINNER

2 pork chops

1 serving of two types of vegetables

SNACK

100-calorie snack pack of chips

TERMS

BMI

18.5-24.9: Normal weight

25.0-29.9: Overweight

30.0-39.9: Obese

40.0-49: Extreme obesity

50-59: Super obesity

60-above: Super super obese

Source: U.S. National Institutes of Health

What is BMI?

Body mass index is a measure of body fat based on height and weight that applies to both adult men and women, according to the U.S. National Institutes of Health.

CONTACT

Jimmy Allmond wants to form a support group for other obese individuals. Anyone who would like to contact him may do so at allmondj@yahoo.com.

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Working out is a challenge, because Mr. Allmond tires so quickly. He can hardly stand for the amount of time it takes to dry dishes, much less get vigorous exercise.

He said he works out regularly in his small kitchen using a Body by Jake home training system, which focuses on his upper body. He sits in his wheelchair for the workouts. Even walking up the slight hill in front of the Allmonds' home is too taxing, he said.

Mr. Allmond imagines a program like his Ohio experience in the Chattanooga area, and he has gone so far as to contact building owners who might be willing to offer space.

He says local gyms aren't equipped for very heavy individuals.

"You just feel funny going into a regular gym with all those skinny people," Mr. Allmond said. "They look at you like 'Why are you here?' But I need to be there."

He believes there are dozens of people like himself who are too heavy to get away from home regularly, shunning care because they are embarrassed.

But he continues to try. Last week he signed up for Weight Watchers at Memorial Hospital's Heart Institute. He figures the program can guide him on a proper diet.

"I don't think I can do it by myself," Mr. Allmond said.

HIGH STAKES

Mr. Allmond's family is fearful about his health. His wife makes him keep a cordless phone in his pocket at all times because she fears he may fall while she is at work and he would not be able to get up without help.

On trips to various doctors' offices, Mr. Allmond uses a medical transport service with a wheelchair ramp. His wife also drives him in their Dodge minivan, which has special rails to load his oversized chair.

Weight-loss experts say his medical conditions and lack of mobility create a very dangerous health outlook.

"If you have all this weight on you, plus diabetes, which attacks the blood vessels, plus the high blood pressure, the high cholesterol, you just have a very bad combination," Ms. Rapini said. "You're just sitting and waiting for the bomb to go off."

The seriousness of the problem isn't lost on Mr. Allmond's family, who all want him to get to a healthier weight.

"He's missed so much because of the weight," said Mr. Allmond's daughter Diana Hughes, who is 23 and planning her wedding. "When I was younger, I remember him always being outside with us, and then he got to the point where he couldn't really do anything."

She moved out of the house into her first apartment while Mr. Allmond was at the weight-loss clinic in Ohio, but since returning he hasn't been able to visit her because the apartment is up a flight of stairs, she said.

Family members say they are patient and understanding about Mr. Allmond's condition, though Ms. Hughes confesses some frustration.

"While he was in Ohio, he missed my high school graduation," she said. "He was working his tail off up there, but then he came back here and didn't work as hard. It's like that year was a waste."

NOT A HOPELESS SITUATION

Ms. Rapini said there is hope. She's counseled dozens of patients of Mr. Allmond's size who have gone on to lose large amounts of weight, she said.

"There is a vicious cycle here, but the first step is to lose weight with medical supervision and then have surgery followed by very good after-surgery care," she said.

At times it does feel hopeless, Mr. Allmond said.

Any public outing results in stares, snickers and insensitive comments, he said. He recalls an incident on Christmas Eve at Walmart when a man called him out in front of everyone for being too large for the aisle.

"When I hear people saying those things, I go up to them," Ms. Hughes said. "I tell them that they don't know all that my dad has been through."

"Anything can really set you back," Mr. Allmond said.

And when he's depressed, Mr. Allmond said, he's more likely to turn to food as a comfort, a common response in obese people.

"What we don't know is if the depression comes first or if their lack of mobility and weight gain causes their depression," Ms. Rapini said. "But obesity is highly impacted by depression."

about Adam Crisp...

Adam Crisp covers education issues for the Times Free Press. He joined the paper's staff in 2007 and initially covered crime, public safety, courts and general assignment topics. Prior to Chattanooga, Crisp was a crime reporter at the Savannah Morning News and has been a reporter and editor at community newspapers in southeast Georgia. In college, he led his student paper to a first-place general excellence award from the Georgia College Press Association. He earned ...

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catlady1 said...

Someone needs to clue Mr. Allmond and his wife in that he IS eating a huge amount for someone who is nearly immobile. Light mayo with 2 sandwiches is a joke. What does he drink (soda?) Why no fruits? This man and his wife need serious help. I wonder what financial help he gets for his disability? He says he hasn't worked in 20 years--nice if you can "afford" it.

I will pray for this man. I am no skinny mini myself, so I know how tough it is. Losing weight takes hard unpleasant long term effort, but you do it one pound at a time. Can someone get him a job, perhaps telephone work, so he can start to feel some self-worth, and get him out of the house?

February 14, 2010 at 4:51 p.m.
peachy1962 said...

i just want to say i am the wife and we are not clueless like you assume. i was stating we eat the same things because people assume when you are big that you are eating a dozen eggs a pound of bacon and all that in one meal and thats not the case. i understand that when your immobile you need to eat less but he isnt totally immobile he is working out in the house and he has started weight watchers too,and yes he drinks diet sodas and water and milk and tea just like everyone else and yes he eats fruit his fav is pineapple. geez he is human like everyone else are you suprised? he is a wonderful father husband grandpa and friend he is more than what you see on the outside thats what i want to get out of this that he is a person! he doesnt drink or anything like that and has always been there for his family if you ask my girls they would tell you how much they love their daddy.and finally he does have self worth he has a family that loves him dearly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

February 14, 2010 at 6:55 p.m.
sparklez1587 said...

He is a wonderful uncle as well! He plays with my son just as much as any "mobile" person would! I was wondering though, since I am an unemployed person, does that also mean I have no "self worth"? My uncle is TRYING to drop this weight. When you are that big, it is extremely difficult. He left his family for a year to get some help! But anyways, I am behind him 100%! I have confidence that he is on the road to a healthier living!

February 14, 2010 at 7:48 p.m.

It is very easy to sit at your computer and make judgements ms.catlady.I do not know the allmonds,but I am living the in the same situation.I weigh 550 pounds,I am trying to lose weight,it is almost impossible.I have a wife and kids and grandkids.I worked until last year when my employer let me go. I have tried to find employment,to no avail.Until you walk a mile in someone's shoes you should not judge them.I am very proud of Mr.Allmond for having the guts to put his life out in the public eye.......... Good luck Mr Allmond

February 14, 2010 at 8:35 p.m.
rolando said...

So we are supposed to say, "Aw-w-w-w" and feel sorry for this guy for turning himself into a bury-it-in-a-piano-case Blob or for emulating Rick Meyer's grossly obese movie character, "FatB**tard"? Not bloody likely.

Slap him on a dietician-supervised 12-1500 calorie a day strict diabetic diet AND KEEP HIM ON IT. He can help with that. Severely limit salt and fat -- no more chips -- trim ALL fat off meats; no more than two slices of bread each meal; eat limited no-sugar-added fruit; limit fatty food [mayo]; read a few books, search online, etc.

He knows all this, I am sure...or he certainly should.

Here is where the wife can actually help...if she really wants to. She should eat the same things he does -- and at the same time -- for encouragement, just make her portions a little larger. After all, it is only his life she is saving.

Losing weight is like stopping smoking; before ANYTHING works, the smoker/eater must wholeheartedly WANT to quit...half-measures won't do it. In the meantime, give total support and encouragement, etc.

February 14, 2010 at 8:50 p.m.
peachy1962 said...

thank you bigdaddydale at least someone understands what we are going through jimmy is trying to get a support group up maybe you can email him and talk maybe together you can fight and win against this.

February 15, 2010 at 4:47 a.m.
sarahlee said...

let me start of my saying that i hate judgmental people.until you walk a mile in someone else's shoes don't judge. to my mom and dad i love you.I'm so proud of you.It took guts to come out and talk open about it.This is becoming a vast problem in the united states with overweight people.If it wasn't for this man you speak so harse of i wouldn't be alive.He supported us so much through the years.No he wasn't able to walk me down the aisle at my wedding but he was able to roll me down the aisle and i won't ever forget that moment. he was able to walk up to the stairs of the chapel.he was there for me when i needed him most.this is for the support for all the overweight people to have someone to share feelings and to help eachother have strength to work on losing weight and have support.

February 15, 2010 at 9:17 a.m.
shannoncureton said...

You know that is my dad and I'm very proud of him for losing weight I guess people can judge what they don't know you think it's easy to lose weight and quit smoking maybe you should work on not being such a fu@king prick it's not too easy is it? I guess you think that your better than someone just cause your not overweight but I bet you have other things that need to be worked on like maybe your personality ya he may be overweight but he has a family that loves him and that supports him no matter what and he doesn't need your pity. So you can respond to this or whatever but just know this he may be the overweight one but your the f@cking prick so why don't you work on that and quit commenting on everyone else's stuff.

February 16, 2010 at 7:05 p.m.

I just want to encourage the Allmond family and Mr. Allmond to hang in there and keep up the support. That is important that you all love each other and hopefully have other friends who will pray for your success. It is a difficult road, so don't give up. It's true that there are those out there who are cruel to the helpless and vulnerable. Never mind them. Also, I might add, the idea to go to a site where you all can post and get alot of encouragement would be a good one. Not everybody understands or cares what struggles many go through in life and DO overcome. Here's to your good health and success! Salut (cheers)

February 16, 2010 at 7:57 p.m.
peachy1962 said...

thank you for your words of encouragement we appreciate the thoughts and prayers of the good people out there who can care about others and understand that everyone has their struggles in life and encouragement goes a long way. to the negative people i feel sorry for you that you can be so heartless that you would call a father and husband that has always been there emotionally for his family a bury it in a piano case blob that was so thoughtful rolando i mean really do you have a heart at all? my jimmy was a volunteer fireman before and an emt caring enough for others to volunteer his time he still wants to help people maybe theres a reason he is like this maybe it is to encourage others and to open up peoples eyes to the growing problems of obesity and to show that its the inside we should all value not the outside. i just want everyone to know we dont want your pity we are very happy together we have weight issues but we have a strong love for each other that will get us through anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

February 16, 2010 at 8:25 p.m.
Max said...

Gee, rolando. Can you spell bitch-slapped.

February 16, 2010 at 9:17 p.m.
rolando said...

This is addressed to all the obese out there not just the folks in the article. [You know who you are -- or maybe you don't. If your car seat crunches when you sit down, the car rocks, and the springs loudly creak, you might consider it.]

This is not going to be a sugar-loaded "I'm OK, You're OK" kinda post. That's not the only kind you need. You need "tough love" on occasion.

NO ONE is born weighing 500+ pounds. It took years of effort and great eating to get there. There is NO excuse for that, you know.

Just lose it, THEN look for kudos -- when people see you outside and notice the change in you, you will get kudos in spades. There are no shortcuts here -- none that work.

Family encouragement is fine anytime...get them to help with the meal planning.

In the meantime, listen to your dietitian or read some books/search online for dietary info. A snack is a piece of fruit -- a french fry or a chip isn't. Stop eating fried foods; baked/microwaved fat-free only, eggs included. Two slices of bread per meal. No pizza, etc, etc. Cut back on the mayo. Get a diabetic cookbook; there are delicious foods to eat in there...provided your wife/children/whoever are willing to cook them for you until you get on your feet...it takes time and work.

As your weight drops, your metabolism will speed up and make the loss go faster. When starting, your body thinks you are starving it and starts hoarding what you feed it. You will see little weight loss. It will get over it. You will hit plateaus during your weight loss. don't quit.

Finally, you are teaching your children that fat is OK and obese is better. And IMO, that is the worst thing of all.

February 16, 2010 at 9:30 p.m.
rolando said...

Read my post after yours, Max.

February 16, 2010 at 9:35 p.m.
HiDef said...

Hey rolando, maybe you should try stepping off your high horse for a minute and remember that nobody, not even you, is perfect. The guy has a weight issue and he's dealing with it. I didn't see in the article where this guy was asking for anyone's pity, did you?

As for calling him "a bury-it-in-a-piano-case Blob", have you ever watched The Biggest Loser or Intervention? They have great success in rehabilitating people struggling with all sorts of addictions and they don't accomplish it by calling people names or telling them to "just lose it".

February 17, 2010 at 12:39 a.m.

Just forgive Rolando ladies and gentlemen. He has some good suggestions, delivered insensitively, but he's one of the good guys. Really. Just take the ideas and leave the rest.

Rolando, save the righteous anger for the real villains, here on this site and out there. There's plenty of 'em as we both know. At least Mr. Allmond is trying, with the help of his family and that's always a good thing. Motivation to overcome anything is essential but many need Divine help to get that and get out of their depression. Drugs and tough programs are many times just a panacea. We all have to deal with the inner issues first, no matter what the Issue is, then the healing can begin. Salut, amigo.

February 17, 2010 at 9:39 a.m.
rolando said...

If he is dealing with it, fine, HiDef. Good on him. Really. I hope he stays with the program and gets back on his feet. Really.

But he has a long, hard row to hoe, here. He and others like him need to know that and really understand that to the point of eating, sleeping, living it. It will NOT be easy. They must keep other things than themselves in mind to carry through the bad times. If that's bitch-slapping, Max, it is also life.

Their close-by family support system must be strong...that cannot be overstressed. What we say on this thread is comparatively minor compared to what his support system DOES. DOES, NOT SAYS. They wanna kill the guy, all they have to do is talk and NOT act to help him in all ways necessary. Let me stress that...ALL ways, including dietary.

It is a bit late to say it, but point is he and the other uber-obese never should have let themselves get to that point. There is really no excuse for it. It is a form of self-abuse [no, that is not some kind of kinky sexual reference] or perhaps a lowed self=esteem would be more PC to say. Depression of one sort or another is a prime cause of overeating. Drugs have the opposite effect.

Yeah, canary, I have this thing about grossly, obscenely overweight people. Something a long way in the past. I cannot just stand by and see it needlessly happening to others. It is heartbreaking on occasion. I will say whatever is necessary to get through.

I have a similar thing about abused children [and what to do with the abusers].

Thanx, mate.

February 17, 2010 at 11:07 a.m.
sparklez1587 said...

rolando, I think it's HIGH time to get off this thread. You no nothing of this family. How dare you get on here and call my uncle some of the names you've called him. So you have a "thing" about obese people? And you compare that to a child abuser. Hun, you have so some serious issues to work through.

February 18, 2010 at 8:39 p.m.
peachy1962 said...

i am very proud of my dad for trying to loose this weight i know it isnt easy!! people on here "you know who you are" need to keep comments to yourself!!! i am proud to say he gets to take me down the aisle tomorrow for my wedding!!! i have never been embarresed to be with him!! growing up i played softball and he NEVER missed a game even if he got sick from the heat he would sit in the van he taught me how to play the sport and even sat outside and pitched to me i will never forget that!! he went to ohio and had to miss my high school graduation but it was worth it!!! i pray that the ones that have negative things to say that God with hold your tounge and you realize everyone is diffrent and there are reasons why things happen!!!!! we dont ask for pity we dont need it he has plenty of family support and plenty of friends who are praying for him so say what you want we know what is really going on and i know God will take care of my dad!! GOD BLESS. diana H

February 20, 2010 at 11:34 a.m.
catlady1 said...

I am glad this man has so much family who have time to monitor this blog. They have the power to help him. Instead of ignoring or denying the truth, however, HELP your dad! Get off the blog and get him out and moving every day. Switch off his TV cable (fast food for the brain). Padlock the refrigerator and have meals on wheels brought to him. He cannot eat food that is not in the house--his wife has some control here. He is in this situation in part because of his "loving" family who is making excuses. Time for that is way over. HELP him. Put your love to work.

And yes, I can speak about this. I have lost 80 pounds that I PUT ON MYSELF. My responsibility, no excuses (although if I did they would sound a lot like his).

It sounds like he is a man of faith; God will help him. His family should help him, instead of enabling him. His church should help him. But he has to make some of the effort, also. He is in for a long pull, but can be an inspiration for others if he is willing to "walk the walk." Quit making it easy--"gotta" can be a better teacher and taskmaster.

Being out of the house, working or at least volunteering his time to those more unfortunate, would do worlds for him.

Please don't think I am being mean, just because you don't agree with me. I think I am speaking from experience on this. Weight loss is difficult under good conditions. Mr. Allmond has a mountain to move, but it won't be moved by excuses and recalling how it used to be. God bless and strengthen him and his family.

February 21, 2010 at 2:36 p.m.
peachy1962 said...

i refuse to padlock anything thats just crazy he is a man not a child! i can go get the food and refuse to get things he doesnt need and keep only good things in the house thats what we as a couple are trying to do and we dont have cable so i dont have to worry about that. i do have control i guess? but i want him to take control of his own life it will only make him stronger in the long run. i dont make excuses for my hubby why do you think i got him to do the story because i know he needs help more than i can give im so tired of being blamed for my hubbys condition i try to push him but like i said before he is an adult!!!!!!!!!! i look at this blog hoping for others like him who may need the support and maybe they can make a connection and help each other. i know if he has others to work with he can loose like he did in ohio another thing i talked him into doing oh and by the way he is getting out and walking everyday he goes and gets the mail its not a long walk but its a start and im very proud of his effort and i tell him that for encouragement. i know you dont understand but this will take time and i hope we can do another story when he looses enough to put that chair away and walk on his on which i have faith he will.

February 21, 2010 at 6:35 p.m.
sparklez1587 said...

we are ignoring nothing. wow.. you sure have a lot of time to montitor this blog as well.. so that is a little silly to even mention that. To padlock the fridge? I don't even padlock my fridge and I have a 1 year old! You've lost 80 pounds! That's great! My husband lost 150, and I certainly didn't padlock the fridge! So yes, my family knows what is going on and is doing what they can to help. Unfortunately I cannot be there to help my uncle every step away, since we live in different city. But if giving my support on a blog will help, so be it. But as far as us monitoring this blog, of course if someone comes on here calling him a blob or anything of the such, we will say something back.

February 23, 2010 at 12:12 a.m.
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