published Friday, June 11th, 2010

Male Call: Society, please stop singling out singles

Last weekend I experienced one of the most deplorable aspects of humankind: discrimination.

Was it because I am vertically-challenged? Or was I judged to be an airhead because my hair reflects the miracle of peroxide? No and no.

The inequity I experienced was because I am single.

Discrimination against single people is a dark part of our society. But it never gets any media attention. There is no national organization fighting for singles rights. Yes, there are absolutely more important prejudices in our society (which are deplorable); but singles are people, too. And we deserve to be accepted.

So exactly how did I get this bee in my little bonnet? Well, I went to a charity event last weekend with some friends. The cost per ticket for tickets purchased in pairs (i.e., by couple) was less expensive than the single-ticket rate.


I attend a lot of charity events every year, and this couple-advantaged pricing is pretty standard. I usually just suck it up and pay the higher price, but this time, it really made me mad.

Plus, I was forced into an ethical dilemma: Do I just own up to my singleness and take the hit of the (unfair) higher ticket price? Or do I take the opportunity to pose as a faux couple with a friend to get the cut rate for couples?

Judge me if you will, but this time, I posed as my friend's "date." (Look I'm a single homeowner, and someone has to pay the mortgage. And $5 is $5. It's the principle of the thing.)

I know what you're saying: "Gina, it was five bucks. You're crazy and reading way too much into this."

Or am I? In an informal survey involving several of my solo friends of various age demographics, discrimination against single people was cited as an issue.

It goes beyond ticket prices at charity benefits. Singles pay more in car insurance premiums than married people. I guess the car insurance underwriters think despair over our single state make us more likely to drive into a tree.

What about those two-for meal deals so many restaurants are offering now? Or not being invited to "couples-only" events? Or having to a pay a "single supplement" or the double rate when you travel?

And who always gets asked by the boss to work overtime or the weekend or a holiday? The married person with kids? Um, no, it's the single person.

I'm not saying single people should have special status in our society. I just think we should not be singled out for weekend work shifts or have to pay more for anything just because we're flying solo. Being single is hard enough.

Gina Bever is a local public relations professional and woman-about-town. She's known for providing her friends -- male and female -- with thousands of hours of free therapy and (asked for) relationship advice.

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ordinaryguy said...

Waaaaaaaaaaa Waaaaaaaaaaaaaa welcome to the real world! Pardon the cliche but would you like some cheese to go with that whine? Single for many years, I understand why there are differences, its not discrimination, as Michael Corleone once said "it's not personal, its stictly business". So get over it!

June 11, 2010 at 8:33 a.m.
dave said...

Gad Sooks! Lessee...earthquakes everywhere...Haiti's in Shambles, Nashville is flooded and ruined The whole gulf coast may be a distant memory of the "before the oil came" and all you can think of is to whine about is having to pay a single ticket rate? Look Pull up your big Girl Panties and GROW UP!!!!

June 11, 2010 at 9:43 a.m.
Tax_Payer said...

I been single 24 years. By no means do I complain about this stuff. My utility bills are smaller than married people and have more money to spend on other things. Uncle Sam pays me more money each year too than married people.

June 11, 2010 at 3:16 p.m.
Marleen said...

Well said and so true. Pure and simple it's a form of discrimination. You are not whining about it either, but stating the facts. Ordinary guy and Dave I think you would be the first to scream if you were charged more simple because you were a man. Discrimination is discrimination and it doesn't matter if there are oil spills, earthquakes, or's still a form of discrimination and it needs to end.

August 2, 2010 at 2:15 p.m.
harrystatel said...


Next time stay home and play with your Barbie dolls and listen to Justin Beiber.

Soon it will be time for school to start. I can only imagine the thrill you have at starting middle school.

August 2, 2010 at 2:25 p.m.
FM_33 said...

Single like a slice of kraft cheese.

August 2, 2010 at 3:11 p.m.
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