published Friday, May 21st, 2010

Male Call: Sweet! Secret to (nearly) every woman’s heart

“He’s really sweet.”

“He’s really sweet.”

No there isn’t an echo in this column. That would be an excerpt from two different conversations from my most recent Girls Night Out.

Two of my girlfriends met new persons-of-interest lately. And both described these new men using the same word: sweet.

And then I remembered that another friend, who got engaged last week also mentioned her fiance’s eternal sweetness just the day before.

And that’s when it hit me.

All single women are looking for their own unique Mr. Right. But sweet, which in Womanese translates to kind, thoughtful and polite, might be a constant force of attraction in the male-female universe.

A lot of women fall for funny. A lot of women are magnetized by smarts. And some women go for the fusion of funny, smart and hot.

But by my calculations, at least 99 percent of women go for sweet. Of course, I should disclose that my calculations are based on my girlfriends, who are pretty sweet themselves. So who knows what my margin of error is?

But nevertheless, I think I’m right about this.

Yes, there are women out there who don’t appreciate sweet guys, and for that, I’m sorry. I have no idea why they are like that.

Maybe they’ve only dated guys who are jerks. Or they like the drama of being treated poorly. Or they are just cranky because their shoes hurt their feet. Who knows?

But the women who are really worth knowing truly value sweetness in a man.

Of course, there is a caveat: Don’t be too sweet. We don’t like our teeth to hurt because we can bulldoze you like a big pile of sugar.

So long story short, most women really appreciate kindness and thoughtfulness. In fact, we appreciate sweetness so much we’re usually willing to accept it over another constant force of attraction in the male-female universe: six-pack abs.

Gina Bever is a local public relations professional and woman-about-town. She’s known for providing her friends — male and female — with thousands of hours of free therapy and (asked for) relationship advice.

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Lockandload said...

This amounts to nice more. Women play that same little game with men and, once they suck them in, they turn around and gut them quicker than Grant took Richmond!

May 21, 2010 at 1:01 p.m.
hcirehttae said...

In my experience, a woman describing a man as "sweet" means she likes him and appreciates him, but doesn't find herself attracted to him in a manly-womanly way. I'm perfectly serious. A man can (and should always) cultivate gentlemanly, nice, kind, considerate, appreciative, etc. -- all as traits that a woman respects and looks for. But when she says "sweet," he can start looking elsewhere if he wants a commitment and a deep relationship (i.e., marriage). It's a bit like when a Southern woman says "bless your heart," it really means "I pity you." I don't think it's a conscious putdown, but it sure ain't a compliment...

This was a more interesting column than usual. Keep at it.

May 21, 2010 at 6:52 p.m.
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