As an adult male I find this column refreshing. I can remember the streeful game of standing around at junior high school dances not wanting to look stupid wondering if she would talk. A couple of weeks ago, one of my best friends was forced(he ran out of excuses) and attended the 50th class reunion of our high school class in Lake Wales, Florida under the condition that my wife not try to match him up with one of the unmarried women classmates. He said he hated being in situations where two people are expected to be a match. In school he was reserved(shy and quiet) and did not like to dance. But yet he was to become a Colonel in the Army with tours in Vietnam, an area administratior with Florida's child welfare program and the vp at a state university. He is not shy and not quiet but still feels playing stupid childhood games is stressfulbut a necessary way of life.