You make an excellent point, Clay. I'm an expert on the coercion tactics used against women in pregnancy counseling. The shaming is not only disrespectful; it's abusive.
I probably should write a book on the subject, but friends have written articles and the coercion manuals speak for themselves:
Here are two of many adoptee activist sites:
The adoption industry and pro-life organizations want us to be silent and ashamed. We're bad for business and throw a wrench in their propaganda machine.