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avennbrown said...

While I have to respect Chris’s choices in life history tells us there is no longevity as an ‘ex-gay’. I claimed the same for 22 years which included 16 years of marriage and two children. As high profile preacher for much of that time there was enormous pressure to conform and maintain the façade. Eventually though I had to be totally honest with myself and others. I was actually still gay at the very core of my being. Here are some questions for Chris and other éx-gay’ leaders. http://exgayaustralianewzealand.wordpress.com/5/ 20 Questions for “Ex-gay” Ministry Leaders

  1. Do you know of anyone who was completely gay (not a bisexual) who has become completely heterosexual?
  2. Considering that scientific research demonstrates that homosexuality is not caused by sexual abuse or by poor parenting what do you think made you gay?
  3. Would you honestly say that you are a ‘normal’ heterosexual person at every level of your being?
  4. Can you guarantee me that if I go through your program that I will be completely heterosexual? Would I be completely heterosexual without being married or would I have to become married to prove it?
  5. What accountability mechanisms do you have in place to ensure that you don’t ‘fall’. If you were truly healed, would this be necessary?
  6. Do you have the same accountability in place to stop you having sex with a person of the opposite sex? Why not?
  7. If you were to be unfaithful to your spouse, would it be more likely to be with someone of the same sex or the opposite sex?
  8. Even though it may not have been your experience, do you think it is possible to be gay and live in a long term, monogamous relationship?
  9. Do you think that long term same-sex relationships are built on sex or love, support and respect? So what is the difference then between gay and straight couples?
  10. There seems to be many former “ex-gay” leaders here in Australia, the UK and the US who are now coming out and apologising for the negative impact they previously had on people they’d taken through their programs, saying they acted in ignorance. How do you respond to that?
  11. We now know that people have suicided, self-harmed or attempted suicide because of the enormous pressure they were under whilst going through “ex-gay” programs. How do you feel about that and how do you personally deal with the knowledge that you have contributed to this?
  12. It seems that almost everyone who is supposedly “ex-gay” lived a tormented life of sexual addiction and self destructive behaviours. Heterosexuals have the same experience but don’t blame their sexual orientation for this. It seems to me that you get sexual addiction and abuse mixed up with sexual orientation. Shouldn’t you be working on helping people with their sexual addiction and not concentrating on the sexual orientation? read the other 8 here http://exgayaustralianewzealand.wordpress.com/5/
December 30, 2008 at 2:22 a.m.
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