Mr. Foster, if these were anonymous letters, as you state, then how do you know that they were from police officers? Seems a bit contradictory to me because the very definition of anonmymous is that there is no identifying information.
That being said, I understand that you have a job to do, but sensitivity goes a long way. Do you really need to ask a widow how she feels about her husband's death? I think we can all infer that she was devastated without having to interview her about it.
Training our principals would be a tremendous first step. As it is now, they are thrust into roles for which they are unprepared. As it stands now at one local school, if a teacher questions a principal's decision, asking if it is the best decision for the children, they are told that they are doing it this way because I'm the principal and I say so. Shouldn't our children's interests come before overblown egos?