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joietothemax said...

I'm gay. Let's get that off the bat now. However, I've been on Delaney's side of the ex-gay movement too. I came out of the closet in January 2006. In September 2008, some circumstances that I'll explain later had religion telling me I couldn't be gay, so I "went straight." All it did was brought more unhappiness with myself. I understand the importance of religion to some people, as in their need for a religion. However, to assume homosexuals don't have religion is ludicrous and completely absurd. It was the feelings of inadequacy towards a religion that led me to potential suicide. God made me who I am. I don't have to answer to any man. He loves me EXACTLY as I am. If it weren't true, then how could we trust a simple principle of "Jesus Loves Me." It's not "for God so loved those who the church deems worthy." It's "for God so loved the world." PERIOD. Those websites listed above...I looked at them. However, I've yet to read anything that I haven't heard, one side or another. Just a lot of contradictory comments and statements with one another. My attraction to men may stem from nurturing or it may stem from the fact I've known I liked boys since I was 5. Who knows. Whatever the cause, I'm happy. Being gay and being unhappy doesn't coexist. In the minds of some religious people it does. I've been there, too. Anyone that I felt was different from me, I knew they had to be unhappy because they were living in such a sin. When I finally came out of the closet, I realized that I was actually happier. I wasn't holding anything back. As I mentioned above, religion started roaring it's ugly head into my life again. I knew that I needed to be straight in order for God to love me. When in all actuality, it was the fact I was so distant from friends that I took drastic measures. People that hadn't spoken to me in years gushed over my "overcoming of sin." When I was living as a gay man, where were they? Is their friendship so closed that I have to fit their standards? If that's the case, then I don't need their friendship. One of the websites listed above had "scientific" proof that gay sex is harmful to the body. They didn't exactly mention that condoms help prevent some of those diseases. Then, I noticed it was a catholic website. (I have nothing against Catholics...just their policy regarding condoms) Do people really assume only gay men have anal sex? Sex is a good segue way. I've only had sex with one person. I don't need sex to survive. I think a very common misconception of homosexuals is that we go out every night and party and have all kinds of promiscuous sex. I'll be the first to tell you that it's just not the case. Sure, some do. The same way a lot of straight folks do the same. If Delaney is happy, great. I would be curious to know whether or not the temptations and lusts towards men are completely gone. I know when I was "straight" they were stronger than ever. I'm not calling him a liar. It's purely out of curiosity. Interesting article.

December 29, 2008 at 6:04 p.m.

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