i refuse to padlock anything thats just crazy he is a man not a child! i can go get the food and refuse to get things he doesnt need and keep only good things in the house thats what we as a couple are trying to do and we dont have cable so i dont have to worry about that. i do have control i guess? but i want him to take control of his own life it will only make him stronger in the long run. i dont make excuses for my hubby why do you think i got him to do the story because i know he needs help more than i can give im so tired of being blamed for my hubbys condition i try to push him but like i said before he is an adult!!!!!!!!!! i look at this blog hoping for others like him who may need the support and maybe they can make a connection and help each other. i know if he has others to work with he can loose like he did in ohio another thing i talked him into doing oh and by the way he is getting out and walking everyday he goes and gets the mail its not a long walk but its a start and im very proud of his effort and i tell him that for encouragement. i know you dont understand but this will take time and i hope we can do another story when he looses enough to put that chair away and walk on his on which i have faith he will.

i am very proud of my dad for trying to loose this weight i know it isnt easy!! people on here "you know who you are" need to keep comments to yourself!!! i am proud to say he gets to take me down the aisle tomorrow for my wedding!!! i have never been embarresed to be with him!! growing up i played softball and he NEVER missed a game even if he got sick from the heat he would sit in the van he taught me how to play the sport and even sat outside and pitched to me i will never forget that!! he went to ohio and had to miss my high school graduation but it was worth it!!! i pray that the ones that have negative things to say that God with hold your tounge and you realize everyone is diffrent and there are reasons why things happen!!!!! we dont ask for pity we dont need it he has plenty of family support and plenty of friends who are praying for him so say what you want we know what is really going on and i know God will take care of my dad!! GOD BLESS. diana H

thank you for your words of encouragement we appreciate the thoughts and prayers of the good people out there who can care about others and understand that everyone has their struggles in life and encouragement goes a long way. to the negative people i feel sorry for you that you can be so heartless that you would call a father and husband that has always been there emotionally for his family a bury it in a piano case blob that was so thoughtful rolando i mean really do you have a heart at all? my jimmy was a volunteer fireman before and an emt caring enough for others to volunteer his time he still wants to help people maybe theres a reason he is like this maybe it is to encourage others and to open up peoples eyes to the growing problems of obesity and to show that its the inside we should all value not the outside. i just want everyone to know we dont want your pity we are very happy together we have weight issues but we have a strong love for each other that will get us through anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thank you bigdaddydale at least someone understands what we are going through jimmy is trying to get a support group up maybe you can email him and talk maybe together you can fight and win against this.

i just want to say i am the wife and we are not clueless like you assume. i was stating we eat the same things because people assume when you are big that you are eating a dozen eggs a pound of bacon and all that in one meal and thats not the case. i understand that when your immobile you need to eat less but he isnt totally immobile he is working out in the house and he has started weight watchers too,and yes he drinks diet sodas and water and milk and tea just like everyone else and yes he eats fruit his fav is pineapple. geez he is human like everyone else are you suprised? he is a wonderful father husband grandpa and friend he is more than what you see on the outside thats what i want to get out of this that he is a person! he doesnt drink or anything like that and has always been there for his family if you ask my girls they would tell you how much they love their daddy.and finally he does have self worth he has a family that loves him dearly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!