Dear Abby: Husband’s fantasies have opposite effect for wife

DEAR ABBY: My husband's parents treat our two daughters very differently. My oldest is bright and talkative, and she's treated with love and kindness. They bring her gifts and make time to be with her. Our younger daughter has multiple disabilities. She is nonverbal and requires help. My in-laws act as if she doesn't exist. I find their behavior toward our younger child to be devoid of love or kindness. It's distressing to my husband and me.

We have mentioned the inequality before to no avail. What should we do? -- MOM OF TWO IN OHIO

DEAR MOM OF TWO: You do not have to sit by and helplessly tolerate your younger daughter being treated the way she has been. I agree that what your in-laws have been doing is cruel and hurtful.