Bruni: President George H.W. Bush and the obituary wars

Bruni: President George H.W. Bush and the obituary wars

December 6th, 2018 by Frank Bruni/New York Times News Service in Opinion Times Commentary

Members of the military honor guard carry the flag-draped casket of former President George H.W. Bush at the end of the state funeral at the National Cathedral on Wednesday in Washington. (AP Photo/Andrew Harnik, Pool)

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On Twitter over the weekend, the television writer Bryan Behar did something unconscionable.

He praised George H.W. Bush.

The former president had just died. In Behar's view, it was a moment to recognize any merit in the man and his legacy.

Many of his followers disagreed. They depended on Behar for righteous liberal passion, which left no room for such Bush-flattering adjectives and phrases as "good," "decent" and "a life of dignity." How dare Behar lavish them on a man who leaned on the despicable Willie Horton ad, who nominated Clarence Thomas to the Supreme Court, who did too little in the face of AIDS, whose privilege often blinded him to need.

They lashed out at Behar. They unfollowed him. And they demonstrated the transcendent curse of these tribal times: Americans' diminishing ability to hold two thoughts at once.

Bush has indelible stains on his record. He also has points of light. At times he failed the responsibilities of leadership. At times he did right by them. He showed folly and he showed wisdom, cowardice and courage, aloofness and kindness.

Accentuating the positive, especially in the hours after his death, didn't eliminate the negative.

Behar said as much in that tweet, beginning it by alluding to disagreements with Bush's agenda. No matter. The blowback came anyway, and he felt compelled, in a subsequent tweet, to explain, elaborate, justify.

"I'm not endorsing Bush's AIDS policies," he wrote. Nor, he added, was he expunging Willie Horton. "I found both to be repugnant. Nevertheless I sensed a fundamental goodness in his post-presidential life & wish his family compassion."

And in another tweet: "I can't believe the number of followers I've lost tonight for benignly expressing sorrow about President Bush's passing. Apparently, to them, I failed some ultraprogressive litmus test."

Should it be this hard? This tortured?

The tussle over remembrances of Bush echoed the tussles over remembrances of Sen. John McCain, when detractors howled about any framing of him as a hero — McCain, who was captured and, for years, tortured by the North Vietnamese and who refused early release unless his fellow prisoners were also freed.

Yes, there were issues, grave ones, to be taken with his positions on American military intervention and with his domestic record. But there was valor galore, across decades of public service, and it's possible, even imperative, to acknowledge and celebrate that.

That's not to say that Bush or McCain, even in death, warrants only tributes. A mix of appreciations and censorious assessments is in order.

But too many of us tend to interpret events, political figures and issues in all-or-nothing, allies-or-enemies, black-and-white terms, blind to shades of gray.

A person can detest the conservative stacking of the court — and seethe over the manner in which Mitch McConnell blocked Merrick Garland — and accept that Trump, in elevating Kavanaugh and Neil Gorsuch, didn't commit some treachery or abuse his office. He fulfilled campaign pledges and reminded us that elections have consequences.

A person can deplore Trump's recklessly inflammatory characterizations of illegal immigration and treatment of migrants while acknowledging that secure borders are a legitimate concern. But that's not an analysis I hear often on cable news.

We like our villains without redemption and our heroes without blemish, and we frequently assign those roles in overly strict alignment with our ideology. Behar's tweets about Bush broke from that.

And some of his followers didn't mind. He even gained new ones — proof that all isn't lost.

But we do seem to be getting worse at complexity. At nuance. At allowing for the degree to which virtue and vice commingle in most people, including our leaders, and at understanding that it's not a sign of softness to summon some respect for someone with a contrary viewpoint and a history of mistakes. It's a sign of maturity. And it just might be a path back to a better place.

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