Susan and Jeff (not their real names) vowed this Christmas season would be different. Instead of their three elementary-age children being consumed with all the toys they wanted, Susan and Jeff wanted more focus on giving. Dad decided to engage the boys in baking cookies for neighbors and friends. Before it was all said and done, mom and daughter got involved.
“Not only did we have fun baking the cookies, the kids really had a good time visiting some of our older widow friends and neighbors,” says Jeff. “Additionally, we did some Secret Santa gifts for some friends who have experienced significant losses this past year. This gave us the opportunity to have a conversation about the importance of giving to others versus only focusing on ourselves. Our intent was not to bring attention to our family but to teach our children that it isn’t about doing something so you get the credit for it, but what it feels like to bless others.” (Which is why they asked me not to use their real names.)
Carol Weisman, author of “Raising Charitable Children,” believes that children today are inundated with messages about being consumers and wanting for themselves rather than giving of themselves.
“Putting a cellphone in their pocket and the ‘right’ shoes on their feet will never provide the long-term happiness fix children crave,” says Weisman. “We talk to kids about money all the time, like how much we are willing to pay for a prom dress or what we just spent on those braces, yet we won’t talk with them about how we give, how much we give and what we value,” Weisman says. “It doesn’t make any sense.”
What is the right age to introduce your children to charitable giving? Weisman says that even at the young age of 3 or 4, children can begin to grasp giving and caring for others.