DEAR ABBY: I have been married to a wonderful man for 17 years. The drawback is he’s a workaholic. We have not spent even one day together doing something fun in more than 10 years.
We both work full-time and live on a small farm. My husband is a carpenter. He collects tractors and works hay fields all summer long. Because he comes in late each evening, I often eat dinner alone. On weekends, he’s working on his tractors or cutting and baling hay.
I do see him a bit more during the winter months, but he thinks it’s a waste of time and money to go somewhere nice for dinner or take a weekend getaway. When I do travel, it is with my siblings because my husband prefers to stay home and work.
I love him, but I’m beginning to feel like I am not his top priority. I am lonely for his companionship. I just don’t know how to handle this. He’s pretty set in his ways. Help. – WITHERING IN WISCONSIN
DEAR WITHERING: A husband who is unwilling to devote time to his wife doesn’t sound “wonderful” to me. Perhaps you should consider having a snack after you return from work, so you can have dinner with him when he comes in.