DEAR ABBY: I’m an educated, attractive 24-year-old woman who hasn’t dated much. I’m eager to break out of my shell and start putting myself out there, but I’m afraid my shyness may make me unapproachable.
How do I strike up a pleasant conversation with a cute guy at the gym or a friendly customer at work? – NOVICE IN MINNESOTA
DEAR NOVICE: Gladly. Start today by making a point of smiling and saying hello to everyone. It’s friendly and welcoming.
At the gym, ask other members about their routine or the machines they’re using. When greeting a customer, lead off with a friendly remark or a compliment. I have met very few people who don’t like receiving one, as long as it’s sincere. (“Nice shirt,” “Nice cellphone,” etc.)
If you freeze up, keep in mind that the majority of people have the same insecurities that you do. My booklet “How to Be Popular” contains many useful tips for polishing social skills for people of all ages. It can be ordered by sending your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds), to Dear Abby Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. Please allow four to six weeks for delivery. A surefire way to contribute in any social situation is to be well-informed about what’s going on in the world. You do not have to be an authority on every subject.