DEAR ABBY: I recently gave birth to our second child. Shortly afterward, my husband called his mother. When he told her the happy news and our little girl’s name, she became very upset. The name we chose, unbeknownst to us, was that of her husband’s mistress of years ago.
She pleaded for us to change the name. She told us she would never speak that name. A week later, she sent a gift of baby clothes. She refuses to acknowledge our baby’s name and refers to her only as “little one.”
I don’t know how to thank her for her generous gift. Normally I would just call her. But it’s clear she doesn’t want to hear from me. — WRONG NAME IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR WRONG NAME: It was unfortunate that the name was the same as the woman your father-in-law cheated with. If your mother-in-law’s solution to the problem is to refer to her granddaughter as Little One, accept it. It seems very loving, actually. And when you write her a lovely thank-you note for her generous gift, sign it, “With love from (your name) and “Little One,” which I think is a sweet nickname.
DEAR ABBY: I am a happily married gay man in my 50s. About a year ago, I was contacted on Facebook Messenger by a man in another state, and we have developed what I consider a casual friendship. My new friend has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair. He lives with family and requires total care for his mobility and self-care. He has normal cognition, from what I can tell.