DEAR ABBY: My wife’s nephew is getting divorced. The process seems to be amicable; there was no cheating or abuse. They have two children. Even though the soon-to-be-ex, “Michelle,” has always been welcoming and nice, my wife’s family has circled the wagons. They no longer talk to her and have made clear I can’t either. I don’t think that’s right.
Michelle has done nothing wrong and has been cordial to us. My wife says to stay out of it and never contact her. I think that’s immature. I realize my thoughts don’t matter. However, I’m thinking about contacting Michelle to say I feel bad about being in that position and apologize.
I think if I did, I’d feel better about myself, and she’d know that everyone doesn’t hate her. Should something happen to my wife’s nephew, I would have some basis for connection to the children. What do you think? — NAVIGATING CHANGE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR NAVIGATING: I think you are more mature than your wife’s family. You are an adult, and you should do what you feel is right.
DEAR ABBY: My father left our family when I was in sixth grade. Because he had cheated on our mom numerous times, he was removed from his ministry and went into education. I tried to resolve my feelings with him, but he would never admit his faults. When I finally asked him to tell me the truth, he refused.