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Breakpoint: What church is really like, despite what you may hear

Wooden cross on a simple steeple set against a sunny summer blue sky. church tile cross building / Getty Images
Wooden cross on a simple steeple set against a sunny summer blue sky. church tile cross building / Getty Images Wooden cross on a simple steeple set against a sunny summer blue sky. church tile cross building / Getty Images

Many Christians, rightly concerned about protecting the Church’s witness in front of the wider world, have embraced claims about the church that simply are not true. Last week, Pastor Josh Howerton of Lakepointe Church in Dallas shared a fascinating Twitter thread demonstrating that when it comes to the Church’s reputation, perception is not always reality.

Citing research from the Barna Group and others, Pastor Howerton debunked the popular myth of the pro-life evangelical who cares only about babies until they are born but not once they are outside the womb. For example, practicing American Christians are more than twice as likely as non-Christians to adopt.

Then there’s the accusation that conservative Christians are sexually repressed, obsessed with “purity culture” and the sexual oppression of women. The research actually shows that couples who identify as “highly religious” report having the most satisfied sexual lives. Those numbers are even higher for women than for men.

A more recent accusation is that American churches are rampant with abuses of power, gaslighting or narcissistic leaders. To be sure, those problems exist, as illustrated not long ago by Christianity Today’s podcast “The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill.” But the data show clearly that regularly attending church, on the whole, dramatically improves people’s mental and emotional health, accounting for a 33% decreased risk in deaths from despair, a 50% reduced risk of divorce and a 29% decreased risk of depression.

The Church, of course, has plenty of problems. But how has the gap between reality and perception grown so wide?