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Baumgardner: Getting past the affair(s)

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Local, federal employee emails turn up on hacked adultery website database

“Life is Short… Have an Affair!”

That is the tag line for Ashley Madison, a website encouraging married people to have an affair. If you haven’t been living under a rock, you know that more than 300,000 people connected to Ashley Madison have been exposed by hackers. Media stories abound, and many of the reporters end their story with a statement like, “Divorce lawyers better get ready for a steep increase in business.”

“If we could speak to those 300,000, we would tell them to push the pause button and don’t automatically head to divorce court,” says Carrie, whose husband Greg (not their real names) utilized social media to initiate more than one affair.

“Infidelity rocked my world. It was embarrassing. I asked myself a million times, ‘How could my world look one way and have such a dark underside I had no clue existed?'” Carrie says. “I am a CEO and have been a policy advisor. I am a smart woman. You would think being married for 29 years, I would have a clue something was going on, but I didn’t.”