Jeanne PhillipsDEAR ABBY: My brother-in-law found out I smoke marijuana. I have a medical card and some mental disabilities. Marijuana helps with my anxiety.
Although we live near each other, my in-laws now say they don’t want me in their homes. The stress this has put on my husband is unfair. His brother obviously has a problem with me.
I never discuss marijuana with anyone and don’t carry it around with me. I use it only in the privacy of my home. How should I expect my husband to handle holidays or even regular get-togethers? I really need help. – UNFAIR IN NEVADA
DEAR UNFAIR: Medical and recreational marijuana are legal for adults in the state of Nevada. I wish you had mentioned how your brother-in-law learned you are using it. That it is being used as an excuse to isolate you is cruel.
How your husband chooses to handle further contact – or lack of it – with his relatives will be his personal decision. Not knowing how close they have been, I can’t guess what his next step should be – except to point out that his first loyalty should be to you.