DEAR ABBY: Two months ago, I met a lady I will call Amber. The first date went well, and we reached first base (kissing). On the second date, we reached second base (fondling). On the third date, after I finished paying the check for dinner, I asked her if she wanted to continue where we had left off. Amber said no. I was fine with it.
Later that night, on the phone, I pointed out, nicely, that she did not say thank you for dinner. Amber got offended. I decided to end things after that phone call.
Should I bury the hatchet by dropping her a Happy Birthday text because I really did overall like her. – BRAND-NEW IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR BRAND-NEW: Amber may have become offended when, after she declined to proceed with further intimacy, you told her she “hadn’t even” thanked you for the dinner. When I read that line, for a moment I wondered if you equated the two and had expected that after buying her dinner you were guaranteed sexual favors in return. The two of you have a significant communication deficit. Contact her again only if you are willing to acknowledge that fact and hope she is willing to work on it with you.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I recently found out we’re expecting our first child. We have been married for five years, and while we are still fairly young, this has been a long time in coming. For both of our families, this will be the first grandchild.