First Things First: Supporting a friend facing infertility

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You're hanging out with one of your friends, and they confide, "We've been trying to get pregnant for over a year, and it just isn't happening. It's been hard on our marriage."

What can you say that will help, encourage and support your friend who is facing infertility? What shouldn't you say even though you may mean well? How can you be a caring friend during this time of difficulty, crisis and even grief?

This week begins National Infertility Awareness Week. It's a week to bring awareness to the stigmas around infertility and help break through those stigmas. And a big piece of that is learning how to be a great friend to someone facing infertility.

We sometimes have some generally unhelpful tendencies in these situations. If we can acknowledge the things that don't help, we are more likely to avoid them:

When presented with a problem, we want to fix it.