Dear Abby: Wife can’t abide husband’s other love: his weed

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my husband for seven years, and I'm tired of having the same fight every day. He smokes marijuana, and I hate it. We tried therapy, but he goes back to smoking behind my back. We tried to reach a compromise that he smoke only after a certain time of day.

He shuts me out when he's doing drugs and says I don't care about his happiness because it's something he enjoys, and I am taking it away. I love him so much, but I hate drugs and don't like who he becomes when he's smoking.

I want to have a baby, but I am uncomfortable with drugs being in the house. I feel like I can't trust him to be alone with a baby when he's high.