DEAR ABBY: We were friends with a couple we met about five years ago. We went out together a few times and mostly saw them at our neighborhood bar. They live about 30 miles away.
Well, the husband passed away about a year ago, so we offered the wife a bedroom whenever she comes this way so she doesn’t have to drive in the dark. The last time she stayed here, she made a pass at my live-in man. She’s a terrible flirt. She grabbed him and kissed him while I was in the spare room getting it ready for her.
We are no longer comfortable having her stay here and haven’t invited her since. It is so awkward. Am I being unreasonable? Good grief, we are in our 70s and shouldn’t have these teeny-bopper issues. I’m feeling guilty. Help! — MIXED FEELINGS IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR MIXED FEELINGS: Did you invite this woman to stay over because you were concerned about her driving alone at night, or because she had been drinking alcohol? If it’s the latter, it isn’t much of a stretch to imagine her impulse control could diminish to the point that she’d make a pass at your fella.
I don’t think you should ignore this without comment. If she asks you why she’s no longer invited to stay over at your place, tell her that when she grabbed and kissed your companion, she embarrassed him, and the two of you are no longer comfortable with the arrangement. It’s the truth.