Q: I just had a baby and everyone keeps telling me I should be the happiest I’ve ever been, but I don’t feel that way. How do I know if what I’m experiencing is normal baby blues or postpartum depression?
A: Having a baby is a major life change, and while it can bring incredible joy, it can also bring a mix of emotions that many new parents don’t expect. Feeling overwhelmed, tearful, anxious or unlike yourself after childbirth is more common than many women realize.
Many new mothers experience what is called the “baby blues,” which can include mood swings, crying spells, irritability and feeling overwhelmed. These symptoms usually improve within the first couple of weeks after delivery.
Postpartum depression is different. It is a medical condition that can last longer and may include persistent sadness, intense anxiety, feelings of guilt or hopelessness, trouble bonding with the baby, losing interest in things you normally enjoy, changes in sleep or appetite, or feeling like you are not yourself.
It’s also important to remember that postpartum depression does not mean someone is a bad parent. A woman can love their baby deeply and still experience depression or anxiety after childbirth. Hormonal changes, sleep deprivation, stress and many other factors can contribute.