Jeanne PhillipsDEAR ABBY: My husband and I separated last year and reconciled several months later. When we decided to get back together, he broke it off with his girlfriend. A month later she contacted him to inform him that she’s pregnant with his child.
The mothers says I’m not allowed to come to the hospital. I say that going without me is absurd, and any child that belongs to my husband is a part of my life, too. He says she is in charge of the situation. Where should I draw the line with my husband? – WORRIED WIFE IN THE SOUTH
DEAR WORRIED WIFE: Is your husband sure the baby is his? And, if it is, to what extent does he plan to be involved in the child’s life? If he participates in raising him/her, then his child will become part of your life.
If a paternity test hasn’t proved he’s the father, he should discuss this with a lawyer to insist there be one.
DEAR ABBY: When I was 19, I lost custody of my three children to the state. They were adopted out, and I have had no contact since. Over the years I tried to find them without success. Recently, I found their names and addresses using ancestry.com to search their birth records. My son, the oldest, is 18 now, but his sisters are only 15 and 16.