DEAR ABBY: I have been in my second marriage for almost 20 years. My wife came with two grown children,. I have tried to be the best family man I could.
My wife’s daughter “Diana” recently disrupted everything after I gave her daughter (my granddaughter) some financial advice after she graduated from college. Diana went off on me, lied to her children about me and has shut out me and my wife. I’m crushed and trying not to lose the relationships with Diana’s kids. The advice I gave was sound and nothing a professional would disagree with. Please advise. – HURTING FROM HELPING
DEAR HURTING: You have my sympathy. This may be an unfortunate example of no good deed goes unpunished. Because Diana refuses to discuss the matter, the breach she has created isn’t fixable. If you are successful in maintaining a relationship with the grandkids, you may eventually find out what set your wife’s daughter off. In the meantime, you and your wife must accept what has happened and do your best not to allow it to further disrupt your lives.
DEAR ABBY: Like a lot of people, I’m working from home. Today I was completing a complicated procedure between calls from customers and getting conflicting instant messages from my supervisor and manager. I exclaimed a cuss word and suddenly got an IM from the manager saying I shouldn’t cuss. I’m at home, in my room, using my computer and on pause so I can’t receive a call from a customer, and my manager is listening to me? Was I in the wrong here? – CAUGHT IN TEXAS
DEAR CAUGHT: Yes, you were. If you did something during business hours that you wouldn’t do at the office, you shouldn’t have been doing it at home. (In the future, if you want to blurt out a few choice words, do it while you are well away from the microphone!)