DEAR ABBY: I’ve been dating the same woman for more than two years. She is a beautiful lady who has quite a few male fans on Facebook, mostly from before we met. What bothers me is her habit of posting selfies and then loving the comments from other men about her looks. We have discussed this, but she can’t seem to stop.
Other than this, we seem to have a healthy relationship with the occasional, normal hiccups. I would like to take it to the next level, but I can’t help wondering if the Facebook habit is a sign that she needs more than what our relationship is giving her. Please advise. – HESITANT IN OHIO
DEAR HESITANT: Her Facebook habit may be a sign that your lady friend is insecure – or conceited – about her looks, which is why she encourages these “fans” by “hearting” their comments. Frankly, it’s sad that she needs more validation than she can get from one person, but that’s the woman you’re involved with. If she were seeing these men in the real world, I would say you have a serious problem. But she’s not, so it shouldn’t present a threat unless you make it one.
DEAR ABBY: My grandson, who I haven’t seen in 10 years, is getting married to a girl I don’t know. My husband, “Hank,” and I are invited to the wedding. We live 1,000 miles away, so we have to book a flight, reserve a hotel and pay for all our meals.
Hank has been waiting the last three months for a date for knee surgery. Most of the time, he’s in pain – especially when he walks. My daughter thinks we should postpone his surgery to attend the wedding. What do you think? – DEBATING IN THE SOUTH