DEAR ABBY: “Doesn’t Want to Lose Him” (Dec. 16) wants breast implants, but her boyfriend is against it. I had breast augmentation at age 27 for the same reasons she wants them. I was flat-chested, and clothing, especially summer clothing, never fit or looked right.
My husband was supportive, and it turned out to be one of the best things I’ve done for my self-confidence. I not only became more outgoing, but my career also took off.
I want to urge “Doesn’t” to talk to her plastic surgeon about her goals. She shouldn’t allow herself to be pushed into a larger size than she feels comfortable with, and she shouldn’t be unrealistic about how it will change her.
She implied that the surgery wouldn’t alter who she is inside, but isn’t that her goal – to have more self-assurance? She’ll see a big change in her life. It will be gradual, but she’ll become a more confident version of herself.
She should forget the boyfriend if he can’t find it in himself to be supportive, because if she does get the implants, I predict that in a year, she will have outgrown him anyway. (Pun intended.) – KNOWS WELL IN SAVANNAH