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Sex? Sexual intercourse? Neither? Teens weigh in on evolving definitions — and habits

Condoms are available for free to students at the health center at the University of Oklahoma, Wednesday, May 10, 2023, in Norman, Okla. (AP Photo/Sue Ogrocki)
Condoms are available for free to students at the health center at the University of Oklahoma, Wednesday, May 10, 2023, in Norman, Okla. (AP Photo/Sue Ogrocki) Condoms are available for free to students at the health center at the University of Oklahoma, Wednesday, May 10, 2023, in Norman, Okla. (AP Photo/Sue Ogrocki)

SAN FRANCISCO (AP) — Situationships. “Sneaky links.” The “talking stage,” the flirtatious getting-to-know-you phase — typically done via text — that can lead to a hookup.

High school students are having less sexual intercourse. That’s what the studies say. But that doesn’t mean they’re having less sex.

The language of young love and lust, and the actions behind it, are evolving. And the shift is not being adequately captured in national studies, experts say.

For years, studies have shown a decline in the rates of American high school students having sex. That trend continued, not surprisingly, in the first years of the pandemic, according to a recent survey by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The study found that 30% of teens in 2021 said they had ever had sex, down from 38% in 2019 and a huge drop from three decades ago, when more than half of teens reported having sex.

The Associated Press took the findings to teenagers and experts around the country to ask for their interpretation. Parents: Some of the answers may surprise you.