DEAR ABBY: I married a recovering addict, and for years he did great. Then one of my husband’s female drug buddies resurfaced, he had an affair and destroyed our marriage. We have been married 19 years and separated for the last three, with a divorce pending.
My husband now wants to make amends. He’s in a rehab program, but I’m reluctant. I have concerns about what will happen when we run into the other woman. I asked her at least six times to stay away.
How should I expect him to react when we run into her? I know it’s only a matter of time until we run into her. — ANGRY AND HURT IN GEORGIA
DEAR ANGRY: You are rightfully hurt and angry, but if reconciling is going to work, it’s important you’re assured he isn’t still carrying a torch for her. You would be wise if you ask your almost-ex-husband how he plans to react should he encounter her, rather than dictate how he should do it. He’s in rehab and trying to rebuild his life after the mess he made of it. I see no reason to create a scene if your paths cross. A courteous hello and goodbye should suffice.
DEAR ABBY: I am a 57-year-old male. I have no children, and I was forced to move back in with my mother to start my life over again. I divorced my wife because she was cheating.