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Thursday, October 29, 2026Oct 29

Jeanne Phillips


Dear Abby: Intense, unrequited feelings make it hard to move forward

DEAR ABBY: I'm struggling with something that feels both silly and painful. I've developed intense feelings (maybe even "limerence") for a man I know, and no matter how hard I try, no one else seems to compare. I have tried dating apps, looking at younger guys, older guys, conventionally attractive guys. Nothing clicks. I keep thinking, why can't I just lower my standards? Or, why can't I find others attractive when I know logically this person isn't the only man on Earth?

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