DEAR ABBY: My 8-year-old daughter “Gwen” has friends whose parents allow them to watch movies I prefer my daughter not see – specifically, scary movies. The parents of one of the girls have invited Gwen to a sleepover. I have been making excuses because I don’t want Gwen having nightmares.
Would it be wrong or impolite to tell these parents that I don’t want her watching scary movies? I don’t want to appear to be dictating to them what they can or can’t allow their children to see in their own home. How should this be handled? – PROTECTIVE MOM, MUSTANG, OKLA.
DEAR PROTECTIVE MOM: Be upfront with the mother who will be hosting the sleepover. Tell her that you know Gwen would love to participate, but that you prefer that she not see scary films. If the mother can guarantee that none will be viewed that night, give your permission. Making your preference known is neither rude nor overbearing, so speak up.
DEAR ABBY: I am the parent of a child with special needs. To an outsider he looks different; adults and children stare at him when we’re out.
My son is not aware of their impolite behavior, but I am – and it really irks me. What should I say to these insensitive people? – BOILING MAD IN NEW JERSEY