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Leber: The code of ethics for dating a friend’s ex

Not that I advocate taking life lessons from Kate Hudson romantic comedies, but recently I saw one that sparked discussion.

On a ladies’ day out at the cinema, a friend and I watched “Something Borrowed,” a tepid movie that was neither especially romantic nor comedic, about a girl who takes up with her friend’s fiance. We walked out after the movie chatting about who was wrong and who was, well, more wrong.

He is, I insisted. If you’re the one in the relationship, you’re the one with the responsibility to honor it.

But, my friend said: You don’t do that to your friend. Even if the friend is as annoying as any character played by Kate Hudson.

She’s got a good point. I started thinking about the codes of ethics we have when it comes to dating.