If we don’t feel good about ourselves, we’re not going to be the best fathers.
Self-image affects how we contribute to our work and relationships, and how we portray ourselves to others. If we feel inadequate, talentless or unworthy in some way, our ability to teach our children, be an example and provide leadership will be impaired.
So we need to take a look at that man in the mirror. What talents does he have? What knowledge does he possess? What skills can he claim? And what areas need attention? It’s those inadequacies that can trip us up, disable our effectiveness as a father and perhaps even instill doubts in our kids.
It’s not that we think dads need to be perfect. That’s not possible. But we need to be honest with ourselves about our shortcomings and work to strengthen them. Do we lose control at sporting events? Are we too sensitive to criticism? Are we consistently impatient? Are we poor listeners? These behaviors may be masking inadequacies from our own childhood.
So, dad, how do you relate to those closest to you? Think about your interactions with your spouse, your friends and your co-workers. Are you kind? Do you listen to them? Do you value their place in your life or do you take them for granted? What are your strengths, and which areas in your interactions with others need improvement? Look again in that mirror and be honest with the person staring back at you. You may see someone you only thought you knew.