Tom Tozer and Bill BlackIt’s all around us, everywhere we go. It’s in movies, on TV – it’s especially rampant in daytime soap operas. There’s no use putting on blinders and pretending that we’re unaffected by it. We’re human, and it’s part of our physical and emotional machinery.
Sex.
Dad, to discuss sex with your children, you first have to cross that bridge of denial. To claim that we’re not affected by sex is to ignore a very basic human drive. It’s hardly a crime to feel aroused when we see an attractive person. It’s not, in our opinion, wrong to be curious about our bodies and the myriad transformations we see and feel as we grow. We think it is wrong, however, to condemn ourselves for our body’s natural responses to stimuli. At the risk of stepping into a minefield, let’s at least tiptoe beyond thinking that the subject of sex is off the discussion table.
How you choose to talk about sex with your adolescent or teenager is certainly up to you. But you need to talk about it. If you don’t talk about it at home, you can be sure it is fodder for all kinds of discussion in your child’s social circles. If you address the subject at home, it will offer balance to the more cavalier chatter going on everywhere else.
John Barrymore, the famous American actor, once said, “The thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble is sex.” That may very well apply to the time we spend talking about it, too.