DEAR ABBY: I’m writing to warn as many other young women as I can about the dangers of unprotected sex. I thought I had met the man of my dreams. I knew from the beginning he had a girlfriend in his hometown, but he assured me he was breaking it off, so I didn’t think twice about starting a relationship.
Well, she moved here and found out about us. He swore to me that there was no one else besides her and me. We have now discovered a third girl — his roommate — with whom he was involved.
Author Jeanne Phillips, the daughter of the original advice columnist Dear Abby, poses for a photo in Los Angeles, Friday, Oct. 5, 2007.Abby, he used no protection with any of us. He swore to us all that he always used it and was regularly tested for STDs. Another lie. Now his former girlfriend thinks she may have picked up an STD from him, and we all have to be tested to ensure we don’t have one.
All three of us could have saved our hearts, our bodies and a lot of turmoil if we hadn’t been so trusting. This has left a lasting impression, and now we wonder whether we will be able to trust another man again. — AWAITING THE RESULTS
DEAR AWAITING: Your “boyfriend” was dishonest and irresponsible. You can’t be blamed for feeling bitter. Now might be a good time to re-evaluate whether premarital sex is worth the headache and the heartache.