DEAR ABBY: What do I say to people who give me unsolicited parenting advice or scold my daughter in public? I would never interfere with another parent or direct a child who isn’t in my care. What gives these people the right to barge into someone else’s life in such a way?
I have been chastised for letting my daughter sit on the floor while waiting in a long line, letting her be more than 4 feet away from me in the aisles, and allowing her to speak loudly. She’s 3. I don’t hire a sitter for running errands and I can’t leave her in the car.
It’s hard enough wrangling an energetic kid while trying to shop, do banking or send mail without being constantly pestered by strangers. Do you have any thoughts on this? – MOM IN HILLSBORO, ORE.
DEAR MOM: If your child is so disruptive that individuals feel the need to intervene or offer “parenting advice,” then it’s time you took some of it to heart. If she’s bored while you’re doing errands, bring something along for her to do rather than use her “outside voice” or run wild in the aisles.
DEAR ABBY: Prom is less than three weeks away, and I’m still looking for the perfect dress. My mom and I went prom dress shopping one time – but everything I liked, she didn’t. She told me that if she didn’t like the dress, she was not going to purchase it.
I tried to tell her this is my prom and I should like the dress, not her, without sounding mean. She told me I should pick the cheapest dress.
Am I wrong for not liking the dresses she likes? How can I get through to her that this is not her prom, but my prom? AGGRAVATED IN LOUISIANA
DEAR AGGRAVATED: When you start buying your own wardrobe, your taste can be the deciding factor. However, when your mother buys it for you, it’s important to remember that her budget needs to be considered and try to be gracious about it. As you will discover when you are older, because a dress is expensive does not guarantee that it’s the prettiest or that it will look great on you.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.