Thanksgiving is right around the corner. This time of year can be filled with joy or tremendous stress, depending on how you look at it. Whether you decide to do what you’ve always done or leap into uncharted territory, a different approach could be a very good thing. It all boils down to perspective.
For those who face an uphill battle, it may help to change the conversation. Bronnie Ware worked for many years as a palliative care nurse, where she learned some very important life lessons that transformed her life. Her book, “Regrets of the Dying,” highlights five regrets and lessons learned that are pertinent to everyone this holiday season.
* “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and died knowing it was due to choices they had or had not made. Lesson learned: It is very important to try to honor at least some of your dreams.
* “I wish I didn’t work so hard.” This came from every male patient. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. The men she cared for deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the work treadmill. Lesson learned: Simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices can create more space for those things that matter most to you. It also enables you to be more open to new opportunities that are more suited to your new lifestyle.
* “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.” In order to keep the peace, many people kept their feelings to themselves. They settled and never reached their potential. Ware shares that many developed illnesses because of the bitterness and resentment they carried. Lesson learned: You cannot control the reactions of others, but you can change how you engage them. Speaking honestly can raise relationships to a whole new and healthier level or release unhealthy relationships from your life.