Under the banner Dads2Dads, we’re working on another book project that is composed of interviews with men whom we regard as model fathers.
These dads represent various ethnic backgrounds and socio-economic levels. What they all have in common is their recognition of the importance of their role as a father and their commitment, regardless of their marital circumstances, to their children.
Tom Tozer and Bill Black pose for a portrait Monday, March 28, 2016 at the Chattanooga Times Free Press.We have been moved and inspired by these men. In some cases, we have learned just as much about ourselves as about them.
After completing 20-plus interviews, one common thread runs through most of their stories about raising their children. It is very simple – or perhaps not nearly as simple in practice. Most of these dads stressed how vital it is for them to be present in their children’s lives. By present, we mean attentive and involved and trying as hard as possible to be there for their kids.
One father whom we interviewed has a 12-year-old son. He and his wife separated several years ago. Dad moved into an apartment and lived there for three years. The boy stayed with his mother. Although it took more effort, dad remained present in his son’s life. Eventually, the couple decided that dad should move back into the house for the benefit of the boy.