Jeanne PhillipsDEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for five years, yet I can’t seem to make headway. I constantly obsess about my failed marriage and the fact that my ex has moved on and remarried. I plot every day how to make his life miserable, which gives me some relief. I have been to counseling, but can’t seem to move forward. I don’t want to be stuck in this rut forever. Please help me. – CAN’T GET OVER IT IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR CAN’T: The quickest way out of the rut would be to find another licensed therapist and get more counseling. Clearly, the first one didn’t help you.
Plotting to make your ex’s life miserable is not the answer. Acquiring the tools to make your own life better is the healthy, constructive way to go. And while you’re at it, keep busy with activities you enjoy so you’ll have less time to fixate on your situation.
DEAR ABBY: Two of my granddaughters have posted pictures on Instagram that show them facing away from the camera with their bottoms covered and their tops nude. They said this is part of the “Topless Tour.” They said it’s no big deal because it only shows their back and “everyone does it.” I feel it is inappropriate to post something like this on social media. Will you please share your opinion? – GRANDMA IN UTAH
DEAR GRANDMA: I think it’s unwise, but the times they are a-changin’ and along with them, the current fads. The Topless Tour – photos of topless women shot from the rear in a scenic location and posted on social media – is just another one of them. Calm down and thank your higher power that this fad is tame. At one point, people were lowering their pants and “mooning” passing trains and cars.