Dear Abby: Wedding kept under wraps may come to light during divorce

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DEAR ABBY: I'm hoping you can help me with this situation. I have been married for 13 years but never told my family that I got married. I now want to divorce my husband, but I don't know how to approach it because he holds it over my head. Please help. I have fallen in love with someone else, and I need to divorce my current husband and move on, but I don't know how to tell my family. - STUCK IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR STUCK: Obviously, you and your family aren't close. What is he holding over your head? The fact that you were married? Your family can't miss something they have never had - in this instance, a relationship with the spouse you hid from them.