Tom Tozer and Bill Black pose for a portrait Monday, March 28, 2016 at the Chattanooga Times Free Press.Hey, dad, here’s a resolution you’ll like: Focus on yourself.
You might say, “Wait a minute … that sounds a little selfish. You’re always saying, ‘Be there for the kids’ and ‘Pay attention to what your kids need.’ Now you’re saying, ‘Focus on yourself.’ What gives?”
We don’t mean that you should be self-centered. We mean simply that in order to give freely and generously to your children and spouse, you need to take care of yourself.
Adjust the stress level
A weak vessel holds little. Increase your capacity to be a good husband and an effective father by fortifying your mind and body. Take time to de-stress. If you’re constantly under pressure, impatient or agitated, you’re not going to be a very good listener. Your ability to be in the moment will not be very strong. You will be quick to react in the wrong way, and your relationships will suffer.