How much grace does it take to love someone who has hurt us or offended us? Well, that’s a good question. Tragedies happen all around us, and we notice how others respond, but how do we react when someone does something to us personally and our family is harmed?
I admit that I do not always have the character of Christ when I’m being threatened. Many times, my instinct is to retaliate because that’s embedded within our human nature. I agree that people need to be punished for their evil deeds and acts of violence, but we must resist the temptation to embrace hatred and resentment. Life is filled with challenges and situations that attempt to lure us into bad attitudes, but for the serious Christian, it’s the forgiveness of Christ that can lead us into the peace that passes all understanding.
When we fall into a negative mindset, our joy (which is our spiritual strength), evaporates and we become weak and discouraged. Anger and the desire for revenge can emotionally, mentally and spiritually hold us in the bondage of misery. If we allow ourselves to become weighed down with animosity, our relationship with God suffers, which is why it’s so important to not allow hatred to be a part of our life. We may be able to hide our feelings from those around us, but we cannot hide from God.
For many, there is a war within the conscience where God is saying to let it go while the enemy wants us to stand strong and justify our hatred. Sadly, many would rather live in the agony of being held hostage, instead of submitting to God and allowing him to execute justice his way. Joyce Meyer is quoted as saying, “Forgiveness is not a feeling but rather a decision we make because we want to do what’s right before God.”
If you watch a toddler, you will notice they react to the basic instincts of hunger, affection, disappointment, happiness and anger, but have not yet learned the dangers of being offended. Resentment is one of many attitudes we naturally develop as we grow older, and it’s only through inviting Christ to become our Lord and allowing his Word to transform our mind that we can be molded into his way of merciful thinking.