Last week we dealt with the importance of stepping up to the plate and being a good dad – showing up, listening, paying attention … those things that are sometimes challenges for us. Your role as a dad is vital in today’s turbulent world. Effective parenting – being a block for the young chip – can help resolve many of the problems we face. Good fathers help make good kids. You’re probably already doing a pretty good job. Look for areas where you can improve. We all have them.
Strengthen Your Partnership
Parents who become immersed in raising a child can drift apart and become strangers. They lose the spark, the harmony, the adventure and the reward of a relationship. When their child grows up and moves on, they find themselves married to someone they don’t know. They may discover that the person they thought they knew changed over the years. They are still together but lonelier than they’ve ever been. That’s a lonelier feeling than being alone.
Clear Your Calendar … and Clutter
In order to prevent estrangement, rev your engines. Cherish your relationship. Keep in touch with each other’s feelings. Maintain a sense of your “coupleness” within the larger role of parents. You can do this by spending some time with each other, away from the kids – having a regular night out, taking turns making an occasional special dinner or simply talking together in the evening. The paradox is that “simply talking together” isn’t simple. It requires clearing the clutter, focusing and – here comes that word again – listening.