DEAR ABBY: After 17 years of marriage, I learned that when he was 22, my husband had a long-term relationship with a 16-year-old. He insisted she lied about her age.
After finding out her true age, he went back to her. Her mother was okay with it, as well as other family members who knew she was underage. It makes me sick. They engaged in sexual activity when she was underage. They were engaged until she allegedly cheated.
I’m livid because he tried to say he told me she was underage, but he never did. I would never have dated or married someone who knowingly had sex with an underaged individual. I’ve been questioning a lot about this marriage. Am I overreacting? — CAN’T GET OVER IT
DEAR CAN’T: The first item on your agenda should be to make an appointment with a licensed marriage and family therapist.
He would have married her had she not cheated on him. If he has been a faithful and caring husband since your marriage, it’s time to forgive him for his youthful indiscretion, which was encouraged by the girl’s family.