DEAR ABBY: I’m a senior male who has been married and divorced twice. For the last eight years, I have been in a relationship with an amazing woman. She has always had some control issues, but because of the love we share, I was able to look past them.
I’ve always been the one who paid for everything. I recently had some heart issues and was unable to work my part-time job, so my income was reduced. I was no longer able to continue to do the things she was used to. She recently retired and wants to do more traveling, which, at this time, I can’t afford. This has caused friction.
Two years ago, I put a ring on her finger, which she accepted with reservation, telling me she never wanted to get married or live together. She likes things the way they are. She recently told me she’s no longer in love with me the way she had been.
I don’t want to think badly of her, but I think it’s because of my health and financial issues. This hurts so bad. For some reason, I still love her and can’t move on. I’m a hopeless romantic and a true gentleman. I’m gun-shy about trying again at 70, but I hate being alone and depressed. What do you suggest? — DISILLUSIONED IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR DISILLUSIONED: I am sorry you are depressed and hurting. From what you have written, I can only conclude that when you were paying for everything, your ladylove liked the ride she was on. Now that things have changed financially, she has jumped off, so to speak. You may not believe this right now, but you are lucky she has shown her true colors.