DEAR ABBY: It seems that everywhere I go, people expect tips. Yesterday, I pulled up to the drive-through at a cookie store, and before I paid or was handed my cookies, the clerk asked, “Would you like to leave a tip?” My niece recently told me that after she left a tip at a restaurant, the server followed her outside and asked if she hadn’t been a very good server because the tip was small. I can give you more examples just from my family regarding their experience with tipping.
In this economy, I don’t feel the 20% rule should apply. For the price of a lunch for two at a sit-down restaurant these days, the tip costs as much as a small entree. When I go through a drive-through, I don’t feel I need to tip because I’m not inside using their facility. But if I don’t, I get a disappointed look from the gal who gets paid to make and hand me my drink. What are your thoughts? — TIPPED OUT IN IDAHO
DEAR TIPPED OUT: The server you mentioned may need tips to survive on her sub-minimum or minimum wage income. However, a tip should never be requested, and for a server to follow your niece out of a restaurant to discuss a small tip is beyond the pale. Although some establishments “suggest” tips that can go as high as 35%, most customers give 15% or 20% of the total bill.
Since you asked for my opinion, here it is: Quit complaining. If you think you received adequate service, leave a tip, and you will be warmly welcomed at whatever eatery you choose to patronize.
DEAR ABBY: Once a month, my wife and I play music trivia with my brother and his wife at our local pub. We invited them, thinking it would be a great way for us to get closer. (I have an older brother we are closer to.) As it turns out, my sister-in-law belittles my brother in front of us if he questions an answer someone might give (which we all do at one point or another).